Bubba/ Addison Bostick (Sister)
Bubba I miss you. I know I don't post on here nearly enough. But you are always on my mind. I think about you every, single, day. I think about how you would see me know. I think about if you would be proud of me. I try to live up to what I think your expectations would have been for me and don't do nearly a good enough job of exceeding those expectations. But I miss you so much! The only thing I regret is being four and not fourteen when this happened so I would be able to remember you beautiful smile from memory's and not from photos. I love you so much bubba. Close
I miss you / Chris Brown (Best Friend )
I can't believe it's been 10 years. You're like a neither to me and your family is like my family. You're the most outgoing, funny & charming guy I've ever met. Until we meet again, I love you my beloved friend. Close
Condolence/ Cindy Boyer (none, I'm hoping to share some comfort )
Dear David & family,
I'm very sorry to read of the tragic loss of your beloved son Brett, and I want to offer my heartfelt sympathy to you. I hope that you'll find some comfort in these verses.
Acts 24:15 promises, “that there is going to be a resurrection.” Many tragic, unexpected deaths are due to what the Bible calls, "time and unforeseen occurrence that befall them all." - Ecclesiastes 9:11b
Our loving God doesn’t cause sad things to happen to our loved ones, as James 1:13 helps us to understand, ‘When under trial, let no one say: “I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried nor does he himself try anyone.’”
2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 speaks of God as “the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our tribulation.” 1 Peter 5:7 lets us know that we can “throw all our anxiety upon (God), because he cares.” And Isaiah 65:17b tells us that the former things will not be called to mind, neither will they come up into the heart.” - Thus the heartbreak that we experience now, won’t even be remembered after Jehovah God resurrects our loved ones; thereby undoing the sad effects of death and the pain being separated from them brings.
Revelation 21:4 promises, “And (God) will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” - Just imagine -a world with no tears of sorrow, no pain, and no death! And no sickness of any kind as Isaiah 33:24 promises, “no resident will say: ‘I am sick.’”
Only God can fully understand the role of mental sickness, extreme stress, even genetic defects, in a "suicidal crisis," which, the National Observer noted, "is not a lifetime characteristic (but) often a matter only of minutes or of hours." - Ecclesiastes 7:7 tells us, "For mere oppression may make a wise one act crazy." - God alone searches 'all hearts and every inclination of the thoughts.' - 1 Chronicles 28:9 - You mentioned that your son Brett tried to climb back up and so we can see that just as this article acknowledged; a crisis may be only minutes but sadly much harm was already done.
Loved ones will be resurrected, and welcomed back to life by loving family and friends right here on the earth in the midst of peaceful, beautiful, paradise conditions, as Psalms 37:10, 11, 29 tell about, “And just a little while longer, and the wicked one will be no more; and you will certainly give attention to his place, and he will not be. But the meek ones themselves will possess the earth, and they will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace. The righteous themselves will possess the earth, and they will reside forever upon it.” - We can have the opportunity to live together forever in perfect peace, health, and happiness with our loved ones!
Jesus gave us hope of a time when all suffering will end. He taught his followers to pray: “Our Father in the heavens, . . . Let your Kingdom come. Let your will take place, as in heaven, also upon earth.” - Matthew 6:9, 10 - When God’s Kingdom comes, there will be no more suffering or death on the earth, just as there is no suffering or death in heaven!
I hope that you will find comfort in your memories, perhaps by looking at pictures. And I hope that these and other verses will bring you comfort, peace, and hope.
And will you please look at the web site, www.jw.org as it offers much comfort that is solidly based on God’s Word the Bible, and it shares what has helped others to cope with their grief. If you decide to look at the site, when on the web site, please click on publications at the top of the page, then under magazines on the left click on ‘magazines’ and in Display box to the right where it says ‘latest‘; scroll to 2011 and click on search, and then please ‘scroll down 3 rows‘, and click on the 'PDF' format for "Coping With the Loss of a Loved One" found in the April Awake; and you’ll be able to open this magazine to read the article in its entirety. Three subjects are: "An Almost Unbearable Loss" "Coming to Terms With Death" and "Help for Those Who Grieve" This is one of the most comforting magazines that I've read and I hope you will read this article and find some comfort in what has helped others to cope with their overwhelming losses. Currently, there is the article featured on the main page, "Why is there so much suffering? When will it end?"
Also; on the web site, if you go to the top and please click on publications, then scroll down under featured items, and click on online library, and then please type suicide in and click on search and articles will come up that may offer more information and comfort to you. Take care, and I truly hope that you will find some comfort.
I WILL MISS U!! / Delisha Jones (OLD Friend from school )Read >>
I WILL MISS U!! / Delisha Jones (OLD Friend from school )
HE WAS THE MOST CARING AND COOL GUY TO HANG OUT WITH!!! U COULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT ANYTHING AND HE WOULD LISTEN!!! HE WAS ALSO A GENTLEMAN!! RIP BRETT..I WILL MISS U!!! IM SORRY THIS IS LATE BUT I JUST NOW FOUND THIS!!! Close
Grandmother Mary Ellen / Mom (Mother)
It has been way too long since I talked to you baby.... Grandma Mary Ellen posted something today that took me to my knees... What I would give for one more day... One more kiss... and most of All your beautiful smile and antics!! I talk about you on a daily basis.... You touch my life each and every day! You have always and will continue to touch more peoples lives than you will ever know! I LOVE YOU soooo much my Sweet Sweet Angel... Mom Close
I would like to say that Brett was one of the softest hearted people i have ever known.He was my brother Dustins best friend for years and was the only friend of his who never treated me like the rest of them.He spend many days and nights at our house and was a part of our family.I will never forget one Christmas Eve when he was at our house playing Mortal Kombat with meand to THIS day he is still the only one to ever beat me at that game.(I like to keep it that way).Somehow i ended up with a shirt he left at our house.I tried to give it to my brother and he said"I would never take that shirt from you".I held on to it and and finally ended up framing it.He treated me like a big brother wouldand i will never forget him.He took a piece of our family with him for sure.While reading the page set up for him by David i just sobbed for hours but it also gave me a sense of peace to read everything involving his journey home.He is blessed to have such a big wonderful familyand it gives me peace to know that he KNEW we all cared and loved him more than anything.Thank you David for posting something so beautiful about Brett.He stays in my mind and will NEVER leave my heart. God love his heart and yours too.
As I sit here tonight I can't help but too smile. I will never ever forget you. You live in my heart. I was told a couple of months ago that my problem was I haven't completed my grieving process I wanted to reach across that desk and well you know. But maybe he was right.
You are my son and you will always be my son. You are now in the most perfect place. No pain and suffering.
There are several things that I would've liked to have changed those last 8mos with you. But I know now that I can't maybe that's the completion of the grieving process it's not forgetting it's about going on. And you go on in your Brothers, your Sister, and now, your nephew and your niece.
I will never forget this night 5yrs ago, ever. We all knew that you were leaving. You waited until everyone that was able could say goodbye.
When the nurse woke me and told me you were gone. I touched your face and your hair. I kissed your beautiful lips. I smelled your sweet skin. I will never forget that.
What our family has now, is a beautiful angel like you.
I love you son and I miss you and someday I will see you again.
This helped me and my daughter. / Fallon Redden-Benedetto (friend)Read >>
This helped me and my daughter. / Fallon Redden-Benedetto (friend)
I knew you when we were in high school. Now I am facing the parenting years. My step-daughter is 13 and I have had custody of her for about 3 years. A week ago she came to me crying saying that she had just tried to hang herself. Her mother abandoned her and she has never come to terms with it. As soon as she told me what she had done I thought of Brett. I took her to the hospital and they admitted her. During the week that she was gone I referred to Brett many times and I cannot imagine the pain that your family went through after the accident. I am lucky that she was able to stop herself and come tell me what she had done. I dont think she understood the consequences of her actions. The story of Brett has helped both of us. I will never forget you Brett.
the memory of you / Tabatha Gonzalez-Delatoba (Friend from Basic training )Read >>
the memory of you / Tabatha Gonzalez-Delatoba (Friend from Basic training )
I was fortunate enough to have met u during our time at Ft Jackson. you were in first platoon and i in 2nd platoon. We ate together trained together froze our butts off together! remember the time you ate the sticker right off the apple just to prove how tough of a soldier you were?! and it got you the nickname goat boy.. lol you could always make me laugh! Remember the countless hours we had to "hurry up and wait" for who knows what? there have been sooo many times since then that i thought about you and how you were doing. i'm glad to see that you have such a loving family that cares about you and wanted the best for you!
i fight back the tears and the knot in my throat wishing i had known sooner! Basic training taught us to be battle buddies and to this day that's what we are and will be! i know you have my back up there as i do urs down here!!! miss u buddy!!! Close
When you were young. / Kimberly Hyde (Babysitter when he ws a babe. )
I know its been awhile since you went to be with God. I have been remembering you when you were little and staying at my house. Do you remember when the duck used to try to attack you every time you walked by, you probably do, since that duck is probably there in heaven with you, walking right by your side. You and Jill were inseperable then, everywhere she went you went. I'm sure you are the very best Guardian Angel ever, looking over your family. Close
Something very special happened today. / Dad Read >>
Something very special happened today. / Dad
Your sister had her first softball tournament game today. As we walked towards the field I noticed a young man, guessing old teens, young twenties, in a wheel chair I noticed from the toning in his hands and the way he rested his head on the head rest that he was in a vegetative state, his hands were so toned, his fingers touching the inside of his forearms. What did I see, I saw you, I couldn't take my eyes off him, the way he would look around, I wanted him so much to look at me and smile and blow me a kiss, when someone would hit the ball he would react. I so wanted to talk to his parents and ask what happened, but I didn't, the pain he must be going through, and I thought, would I like you to be that way today, the emotions were overwhelming, I'm at your sisters softball game crying, what's up with that. Mom and I both wiped our eyes until the game started, she misses you so much also.
We learn or try to learn what we are given by the grace of God, I don't think I will ever learn or understand, but I'm ok with that. Tomorrow your sister has another game, maybe then I will at least have the courage to stop and say hi to that young man. I really miss you so much.
We have another game tomorrow, I hope and pray that he is there.
I came across a sack full of letters that you received when you were at Ft. Jackson. I couldn't believe how many you had. Your Grandmother Mary Ellen, and Grandma and Grandpa wrote you so much and the true friends that you had wrote you also.
I wish I had written you more, seeing the letters that Nick, Colby, and Mike sent you, their young handwriting is priceless, the love that they not only had but still have for you is priceless, they would write you notes for Addison, you touched them more than you would ever know.
The lives you touched, the smiles you brought, the love you gave, priceless.
I love you my sweet angel, more today, a hundred times more today, than I ever have.
So much has happened and changed the last 3 years, but one thing that hasn't changed, is my love for you.
As baseball has almost ended for Colby, it's just now starting for Mikey oh how much I/we miss telling you the game summary, I know you are always watching, but to see the sudden smile on your face when we would talk about their games is just one of the thousands of things I miss.
Kingston is growing so fast, he is just like Nick. Nick has grown up so much the last 8 mos. he can't stand to be away from Kingston, but Kingston might be an only child, Nick and Ladessa took Colby, Mikey, Addison and Kingston to the zoo a few weeks ago, and Nick called me and I was amazed he only had to threaten them 4 times to behave or they'd would leave, then I got the words I told my father 20 plus years ago. Dad your right, I love you, and thank you. I will always wonder what your son or daughter would have been like, back too the thousand things I miss.
I'll never forget anything, but for some reason I've been thinking lately of something that happened right after you got out of CCU and moved to a private room. I had just gotten there after work and your Grandfather was there and I told him that I had gotten so mad after work that I started beating on the console of the car at a red light. He told me he had gotten mad that day also. Our anger was different though, I was mad at God, he was mad at you.
After we talked I understood what he was mad at, God didn't make this decision for you, you did. But I was mad at God because he didn't give you back. Everything happens for a reason, and I had already forgiven you, now I thanked God.
It's amazing how Colby looks so much like you, and sorry to say, at times acts like you, in a good way, well, most of the time, I know that you will not only watch over him but all your brothers and sister.
Michael has become the ladies man, believe he is on girlfriend #12 in only 6 mos, and he and Colby fight all the time, reminds me of you and Nick.
Addison talks about you often and there are certain songs that come on and she cries, she misses you so much, that is what you meant to her, she remembers so much at only being 4yrs old when you left.
Of the thousand things I miss here are just a few.
I miss your smile, your laugh, your kisses, your smell, your beautiful face.
I miss your anger, your not minding, your getting into trouble.
I miss you taking the golf cart out after we've gone to bed, driving it all over town.
I miss not knowing what your going to look like the next time you walked in the front door.
Has it been that long.... / Clay Price (Friend)Read >>
Has it been that long.... / Clay Price (Friend)
I know it must be tough this time of year and i couldn't imagine going through what you and your family have been through. But just remember He's looking down and keeping a close eye on us all. Brett was one of my closest freinds and i feel like i would letting him down if i didn't extend my condolences and a helping hand. So if you or your family need anything, someone to talk to, or even just someone to tell a few stories about Brett just give me a call you have my cell # and my e-mail address.
Whats up bro, there are a million things i want to say to you right now but I'm sure there is some kind of limit on how far this thing will let me type.nt gonna bore you with all that mushy stuff either,(I know how much you hated that) (although while typing this i just wann let you know how much i miss you and am really glad i got to know you).With that being said, do you remember the time You, Johnny Mac(aka Baby Jay), and Matt Massey got dressed up in those 1970's shorts (and i do mean SHORTS) the knee high socks, head bands and aviators and made me follow you guys in my Durango blasting "Eye Of The Tiger" while yall ran from your Dad and Stepmoms House in bonham all the way to "Habeebs." And what about the time we went to cruise "Parkway" and you an Driden acted like you got in fight in the middle of a CROWDED intersection, people were honking and yelling "KICK HIS ASS." But what sticks out in my mind most is when we all, you know who i'm talkin about. Use to go riding around in the AMIGO, dude im not lying when i say i think about the times we had and all the crazy shit we did, everyday, not a day goes by when i don't think about it. We all looked up to you we all STILL look up to you. You were like a brother to meand always will be. In short what i'm saying is that just because youre not "here" youre still here in a way through the memories you've left everyone who knew you. And i'll leve you with a peice of a song Remember This One?:
"Stormin thru the party like my name was El Ninyo and im hangin out drinkin in the back of "Bretts Amigo" as kid was a skid and noone knew me by name, trashed my own house party cause nobody came, and i know im not the one you thought you knew back in highschool never goin never showin up when we had to, is it attention that we crave dont tell us to behave im sick of always hearing act your age............"
I know the experience / Iris Aguilo (passerby from Long Island NY )Read >>
I know the experience / Iris Aguilo (passerby from Long Island NY )
I am soo sorry for your loss I know the long road you had before brett gained his angel wings. We too experienced a similiar situation only ours lasted ten years. Yes was the worse ten years of our lives. Our mother had a asthma attacked and the lack of oxygen to the brain caused severe brain damage. She too was in a vegetative state. She too was in a nursing home for one year where she had countless trips to the hospital for different reasons including having her peg come out to getting infections and having to remove it to a different site. After a year in a nursing home we decided to bring her home vent and all because we knew we would take better care of her then the nursing home was. Well we took such good care of her my mother lasted 10 years on a vent at home in a vegetative state. My mothers heart finally gave up. The day my mother gained her angel wings was the saddest and happiest day of my life sad because i was no longer able to kiss her beautiful face and feel the warmth of her body and happy because I knew my mother was free from her body. The ten years I had to prepare for this I thought I was well prepared but I wasnt I miss my mom so much sometimes I feel as if i cant breathe. It has been 19 months and I cant help but think of her everyday and the selfish part of me would want her any way I could get her even if it is in a bed. When I read your story tears flowed down my face because I just knew exactly how you felt. I am sooo sorry for your loss Brett is flying high with the angels and thanking you for not letting him take that road alone. god bless you all
Picture for my parents 50th wedding anniversay / David Bostick (Father)Read >>
Picture for my parents 50th wedding anniversay / David Bostick (Father)
We really had a good time and missed you so much last weekend at Grandma and Grandpa's 50th wedding anniversary party. We had a picture made of all the Grandkids and Great Grandkids, the empty chair is for Jackie who couldn't make it,and for you.
I know you were there, but sure would of loved to have touched you.
To my love on his birthday / Candi Piper
Today's a tough day for me Brett. As it is every year. I miss you everyday and still can't believe you're gone. I love you so much and I know you loved me. I try to remember the good times and block out the bad. It hurts. I still see you in my dreams. More often than not. You're always happy so I guess that helps. I pray to God that you're happy, that you don't hurt anymore.
You meant the world to me Brett and i've done well to move on from this. There was a long time when I didn't think I could. And I don't think i'll ever be able to love anyone else the way I loved you.
I miss everything about you. Even your temper. I miss the way you smelled, the way you kissed, that high-pitched laugh you had when you thought something was really funny. I miss sleeping in front of the fireplace at your parents house on Christmas. Those horrible red pants you used to wear. Your "ear-butter"...yes, I even miss that. I miss you.
I thank God for the time I had with you. Over two years of my life was spent loving you and I wouldn't take it back for anything. I'm glad I could be there for you, i'm glad you could confide in me. Your dad told me after the accident that you told him you were going to marry me. I wish you'd told me that. Maybe things would be different now.
You were, are, and always will be the love of my life. Nobody could ever replace you in my heart. I love you always Brett Gordon Bostick. Close